He Loves Me…He Loves Me Not…
How to Decode and Respond to His Text Messages
Texting a man can sometimes feel like a constant game of “he loves me, he loves me not,” just without a daisy to peel petals off of. Unless you really happen to enjoy destroying daisies, there’s no reason to be playing that childhood game as an adult.
Unlike a lot of us women, most men don’t spend their time analyzing text messages. They see no reason to because, for them, a text is often just 140 characters. Yappers – nothing more than that.
So, what’s the point? Why don’t we see it that way? How can we avoid spending countless hours reading and re-reading his text messages? You can save yourself a lot of time by accepting that most men don’t write text messages in foreign code.
Here are some common examples to get you started.
When he sends, “What are your plans for…?”
I know what you’re thinking. What are his intentions here? Does he want to find out if I’m free to do something? Is he hoping I’ll be busy so that he can make other plans? You don’t want to tell him about your upcoming girl’s night because then he might think you’re not interested in him. However, you also don’t want to risk sounding like a loser by being overly available and saying you have nothing planned.
The best thing to do is just be honest. If he wants to ask you out, he’ll ask no matter what your response is. If you happen to busy on a particular day, he’ll just suggest a different time. It’s also possible that he just thought upcoming weekend plans would be a safe conversation starter. The safest thing you can do is simply treat it as such.
When he stops texting:
Oh, no! You must have said something stupid, and now he’s no longer interested in you, right? Or, maybe he (and his phone) were both eaten alive by the Big Bad Wolf? Hold your horse. Not so fast.
Maybe he just isn’t interested in having a small talk conversation over text. Not just with you, but with anyone. Not everyone enjoys texting. Period. Many men prefer to only text when they have a legitimate reason to, such as setting up or confirming plans to spend time with you in person. Bring up the subject when you are together – in person.
When he sends emoji’s and emoticons:
Most men don’t use emoji’s or emoticons on a regular basis. It’s rare to find a man that does. If he uses them with you, it means he’s going out of his way to come across as more flirty and knows women think they’re cool. Don’t worry about which emoji or emoticon he used. The fact that he used one at all is enough.
When he sends the good morning/good night text:
He’s going out of his way to do this because he’s thinking about how much he likes you, and he wants you to know that. He wants you to know that he appreciates you. Men don’t go out of their way to send messages like this to people they don’t care about, plain and simple. The same can be said about almost any text that isn’t asking you for a favor.
What to do now:
Now that you know the appropriate interpretations of and responses to some of his common text messages, put your phone down. If you really feel like playing the “he loves me, he loves me not” game, you can buy yourself a bouquet of daisies from the nearest grocery store.
Stop thinking about the hidden meaning behind his text messages. It’s not worth your time. There probably isn’t one. Just enjoy them at face value. If his texting habits are upsetting you, openly communicate with him in person.
Claudia is the creator of Text Weapon, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She is passionate about modern communication and loves helping people improve their relationships through flirty texting. To read more by Claudia, visit Text Weapon . Don’t forget to signup for the FREE Texting Club trial with over 300 messages. You can also hit her up on Twitter